Hi there, I'm Nic Tovey, Relationship and Intimacy Coach and Psychotherapist, and and I'm so pleased that you're here.

Firstly I want to congratulate you for taking this first step to help reignite and sustain the passionate fire in your relationship. That is no small thing so I respect you for getting this far!

And secondly I'd like to thank you for trusting in me to be your guide and companion along this section of your journey.

None of us have ever been taught how to do relationship. Most of our parents were only able to teach us by their own example, and many of them had no clue themselves. We were left to work it out for ourselves while on the job, relationship to relationship, riding the heartbreak merry-go-round, and of course we’ve all screwed it up along the way, but hopefully we’ve learnt a few things along the way. 

Relationship is a verb; it is not something we have it is something we DO. It is an art form, and like all art forms it requires a certain set of skills and talents, some that may come naturally and some that may need to be acquired and developed. But, as with any piece of art, every relationship is its own unique mystery, constantly creating itself.

If you're anything like most couples, you come across times in your relationship when you feel more like room mates than soul mates. You may be there now. It is no secret that the passionate fire that was ablaze at the beginning of most relationships can often dwindle to embers at best. Other things get in the way - too tired, busy, stressed, etc. etc. etc. Its easy to allow bad habits to take hold and before we know it we're in the cohabitant zone. This is usually accepted as the norm, "just the way it always goes", but is that really how it has to be? Do we have to just roll over and accept it? Well I'm very happy to say a loud and resounding NO! 

I have seen this happen in too many relationships to count, both in my work and in my personal life. And of course I've been there myself too, so I get it. But we all deserve way better than that!

Stoking the Fire is a short but powerful program to help you both bring some passion back into your relationship, or to put some extra fuel on your fire if its still burning well.

As I said earlier, relationship is a verb, it is something we do. Not only that your relationship is always evolving as you each grow and progress as individuals. Therefore it is a very positive thing to be engaged in a continuous process of engaged learning, so this is the right place to be to learn how to create the relationship you desire.